Wedding planning is tough work and there are a lot of things to consider: from choosing a wedding dress and picking the right music to deciding between numerous catering options and determining the overall style of the ceremony. Not to mention thousands of details:

seating order, flowers and decor, thank you notes, guest activities, design for the invitations… It can get a bit hectic for the planner and overwhelming for the clients. Couples tend to get carried away and they overlook the necessity of professional cooperation. The excitement is understandable but it is important to realize that, from a wedding planner’s perspective − your big day is an event that requires detailed organization.

Limited budget is limiting

A wedding planner may seem as a miracle worker at times as it kind of falls into his job description to be creative and find wallet-friendly solutions or even catch a few discounts by pulling some strings. But the bottom line is this: you get what you pay for. Weddings can be extremely expensive and so setting a realistic budget is mandatory. Most couples are not aware of the pricey services: a solid photographer can charge you around $1000 for the day, while the average price for a wedding cake is around $450. There are always savvy ways to save up but when it comes to budget – wedding planners are often put in the uncomfortable position of crushing the illusions of their clients.

Details are important

The Hard Truths of Wedding Planning According to a Seasoned PlannerSmall things, such as a cleverly designed guest book (maybe even a creative solution, such as an impressions booth) or lovely flower arrangements are what makes your wedding authentic. Some details can also have their role in coordinating the guests: choosing the right wedding place cards that match the wedding’s theme is important but so is their functionality as they ensure everything runs smoothly. Tiny things are easily overlooked or considered insignificant and this is a classic rookie mistake. If you don’t include the additional costs of several minor things – they pile up and cause you to go over the budget.

Small hiccups are normal

The most common myth among the newlyweds-to-be is that somehow – their wedding has to be perfect because it is a very special milestone in their lives. Mistakes can happen (and they do) so it is advisable to mentally prepare for the fact that not everything will go according to plan. This may be the simplest thing, such as the wrong flowers getting delivered or your maid-of-honor running late. A wedding planner is the one who comes up with the plan B and stresses about these things so you don’t have to. It’s important to take a healthy attitude and not be dramatic about it: enjoy your day despite the possibility of few hiccups.

Wedding planner is not your therapist

The Hard Truths of Wedding Planning According to a Seasoned PlannerSpoken from personal experience, brides tend to get overly attached to wedding planners. Sure, they have a lot of decisions to make and the whole experience requires a lot of time and effort – which may be a bit different from what they’ve imagined. It can be nerve-wracking and cause many fights along the way and so more frequently than you would assume – brides confide to their planners. Of course, a wedding planner is on your side, but it’s sometimes hard to draw a line in these situations and it can be fairly uncomfortable.

Knowing what you want is essential

Many couples spend hours browsing through Pinterest where everything looks so pretty and fairytale-like. A wedding planner is there to help you get what you want but it’s important to understand what that is. As professionals, planners can see potential disasters in combining completely different wedding styles (e.g. boho-style mixed with the formal one). Understand that every advice they give you is well-meaning.

Pointing out these hard truths about wedding planning is not ill-intentioned nor is it about bursting your bubble. Rather it is about inviting you to understand the planner’s position and possible pitfalls in order to make the planning of your wedding as joyful as possible.